Your best friend's wedding is probably the closest thing you would have to your own wedding . So much of excitement and so very hectic at the end of the day. But every minute of the occasion is one that you would cherish through out.
I recently attended the wedding of my best friend. We had been dreaming about it ever since we got together , around eight years back . So it was one occasion to be indulged and celebrated . Needless to say , ever since I landed at the wedding venue I was constantly besides her .
The wedding went great . Guests left happy . The couple felt blessed. And the day after the wedding , my friend texted me asking 'Aren't you tired ? I feel drained!!' . True , I am tired , but the excitement is yet to wear off. So , I thought while in the mood I should actually write out this pointers to help people live up to their friend's expectations on her big day.
1. Be there for her . Right from the day her wedding date is set , she would need you and your constant reminders about how she must finish her shopping well ahead of the last minute , her parlor appointments , her spa treatments , her hair styling , . She just tends to forget these important things in between other things .
2. Shop with her. Both my friend and me are people who rely on our fashion sense more than that of others. But , I was surprised to see her turning to me for approval when we went shopping for accessories . May be the pressure of looking your best makes you include others' opinions in your selections. So , do it earnestly. Help her out. She is more confused now than she has ever been in her life. Help her try the stuff and get that which looks the prettiest on her .
3.Get her try the dresses much in advance . We had a blooper at this one. And a huge blooper I must say. I just couldn't get her try her dresses until it was very late. And when things can go wrong , they will go wrong !! So did the fit. It was one scary situation when you have a bad fit and very little time to fix. The tailor of course did the fix , what I attempted at was keeping her calm .
4.When the beautician is around . This is one part that can be tricky . Once the beautician takes up the responsibility to dress up the bride , they don't quite like interference or opinions. But still she is your bestie and you will have to interfere!! So , pay attention to what is being done and if you don't quite like something suggest as pleasantly as possible if something needs to be changed. Better still if you can take her for a trial make up and hair styling session .
5.Her family . They already are burdened with loads of work . If you can, share their responsibilities., but remember your main responsibility is to be besides your friend. So don't commit yourself to any task that would require you keeping away from her for long.
6.Common Friends. The easiest of the lot of guests. You know them. They know you. But problem doesn't end here. At times they just go senseless enough to trouble the bride with really small issues like the route to her house when she is getting her bridal make up done. So , that's when you get into action , attending her calls and helping people out with such details.
7. Her friends . A little tougher part. She had friends you don't know very well. But still it's your responsibility to help them out and see to it that the bride has the lease possible straining to do to accommodate her friends.
8. Stuffs, especially the ones most likely to be missed out , like the mobile phone charger, her toiletries , and other things to be packed is your prime responsibility . I did not myself fare well in this area though . It has hard to get everything packed and carried to the wedding hall but making mental notes helps.
9.The miss fix it all. That is exactly what you should be when the ceremonies are on . Expect her hair to get ruffled , jewellery to fall off , saree to need all adjustments any minute during the ceremony . And the sweat that runs out her make up , which needs to be carefully wiped off every few minutes. Be there with a few safety pins , hair pins and handkerchiefs ready . You never know when you need any or all of these .
10.Last minute deals. Change is inevitable and can happen to even a perfectly chalked out plan . Worst when it happens at the last minute. The bride is a bundle of nerves on the big day . Don't expect her to react well to such last minute hassles. You better be extra composed and calm and help her steady her nerves too.
11.The pep talk . Brides need it a lot . Excitement and fear of not knowing what to expect always makes her an emotional mess. Just keep her happy . Keep her in good spirits and hear out her worries if she has any . No one can do it better than you , after all you are her best friend !
At the end of the day not everything would be perfect . You might make lots of mistakes.But trying and helping make your bestie's big day wonderful should be your focus.The effort and heart you put in would matter a lot to your friend and your friendship .
I recently attended the wedding of my best friend. We had been dreaming about it ever since we got together , around eight years back . So it was one occasion to be indulged and celebrated . Needless to say , ever since I landed at the wedding venue I was constantly besides her .
The wedding went great . Guests left happy . The couple felt blessed. And the day after the wedding , my friend texted me asking 'Aren't you tired ? I feel drained!!' . True , I am tired , but the excitement is yet to wear off. So , I thought while in the mood I should actually write out this pointers to help people live up to their friend's expectations on her big day.
1. Be there for her . Right from the day her wedding date is set , she would need you and your constant reminders about how she must finish her shopping well ahead of the last minute , her parlor appointments , her spa treatments , her hair styling , . She just tends to forget these important things in between other things .
2. Shop with her. Both my friend and me are people who rely on our fashion sense more than that of others. But , I was surprised to see her turning to me for approval when we went shopping for accessories . May be the pressure of looking your best makes you include others' opinions in your selections. So , do it earnestly. Help her out. She is more confused now than she has ever been in her life. Help her try the stuff and get that which looks the prettiest on her .
3.Get her try the dresses much in advance . We had a blooper at this one. And a huge blooper I must say. I just couldn't get her try her dresses until it was very late. And when things can go wrong , they will go wrong !! So did the fit. It was one scary situation when you have a bad fit and very little time to fix. The tailor of course did the fix , what I attempted at was keeping her calm .
4.When the beautician is around . This is one part that can be tricky . Once the beautician takes up the responsibility to dress up the bride , they don't quite like interference or opinions. But still she is your bestie and you will have to interfere!! So , pay attention to what is being done and if you don't quite like something suggest as pleasantly as possible if something needs to be changed. Better still if you can take her for a trial make up and hair styling session .
5.Her family . They already are burdened with loads of work . If you can, share their responsibilities., but remember your main responsibility is to be besides your friend. So don't commit yourself to any task that would require you keeping away from her for long.
6.Common Friends. The easiest of the lot of guests. You know them. They know you. But problem doesn't end here. At times they just go senseless enough to trouble the bride with really small issues like the route to her house when she is getting her bridal make up done. So , that's when you get into action , attending her calls and helping people out with such details.
7. Her friends . A little tougher part. She had friends you don't know very well. But still it's your responsibility to help them out and see to it that the bride has the lease possible straining to do to accommodate her friends.
8. Stuffs, especially the ones most likely to be missed out , like the mobile phone charger, her toiletries , and other things to be packed is your prime responsibility . I did not myself fare well in this area though . It has hard to get everything packed and carried to the wedding hall but making mental notes helps.
9.The miss fix it all. That is exactly what you should be when the ceremonies are on . Expect her hair to get ruffled , jewellery to fall off , saree to need all adjustments any minute during the ceremony . And the sweat that runs out her make up , which needs to be carefully wiped off every few minutes. Be there with a few safety pins , hair pins and handkerchiefs ready . You never know when you need any or all of these .
10.Last minute deals. Change is inevitable and can happen to even a perfectly chalked out plan . Worst when it happens at the last minute. The bride is a bundle of nerves on the big day . Don't expect her to react well to such last minute hassles. You better be extra composed and calm and help her steady her nerves too.
11.The pep talk . Brides need it a lot . Excitement and fear of not knowing what to expect always makes her an emotional mess. Just keep her happy . Keep her in good spirits and hear out her worries if she has any . No one can do it better than you , after all you are her best friend !
At the end of the day not everything would be perfect . You might make lots of mistakes.But trying and helping make your bestie's big day wonderful should be your focus.The effort and heart you put in would matter a lot to your friend and your friendship .
i guess your best friend has a best friend in you at the right time with right dose of tips
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